Poems for funerals during lockdown

Poems for funerals during lockdown

Choosing a poem for the funeral of a loved one is no easy task – especially during lockdown when there are so many feelings and emotions to express. Experienced funeral celebrant Adele Chaplin shares her thoughts on suitable poems for a lockdown funeral.

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Loss during lockdown has been difficult for many families. Many people have been unable to say their goodbyes or pay their respects in the normal way.

The restrictions on the size of funerals have meant that there have not been opportunities for gathering to celebrate and honour the end of a life. As a result of this, the funeral itself has become a more personal and meaningful celebration of life. Families have been trying to squeeze into a short time slot the commemoration and reflection that would usually be part of the larger ceremony and wake.

Poetry has taken on a meaningful role in lockdown funeral ceremonies. It is being used by many families to help express their thoughts during these challenging times.

Here are some pieces of poetry which may help to express your thoughts about the loss of a loved one during lockdown.

‘Death (If I Should Go)’ by Joyce Grenfell

If I should go before the rest of you

Break not a flower nor inscribe a stone

Nor when I’m gone speak in a Sunday voice

But be the usual selves that I have known

Weep if you must

Parting is Hell

But life goes on,

So sing as well.


The author and illustrator Chris Riddell has compiled a volume of poetry called Poems to save the world with. Within that, there is a section of poems about lockdown.

‘Lochan’ (for Jean Johnstone) by Kathleen Jamie

When all this is over I mean

to travel north, by the high


drove roads and cart tracks

probably in June,


with the gentle dog-roses

flourishing beside me. I mean


to find among the thousands

scattered in that land


a certain lochan,

Where water lilies rise


Like small fat moons,

and tied among the reeds,


underneath a rowan,

a white boat waits.


Some families choose poetry which shows how much their loved one is missed, like this one:

‘The Voice’ by Thomas Hardy

Woman much missed, how you call to me, call to me.

Saying that now you are not as you were

When you had changed from the one who was all to me,

But as at first, when our day was fair.


Can it be you that I hear? Let me view you then.

Standing as when I drew near to the town

Where you would wait for me: yes, as I knew you then,

Even to the original air-blue grown!


Or Is it only the breeze, in its listlessness

Travelling across the wet mead to me here,

You being ever dissolved to wan wistlessness,

Heard no more again far or near?


Thus I; faltering forward,

Leaves around me falling,

Wind oozing thin through the thorn from norward,

And the woman calling.

And finally, it is often good to ponder on the journey of life, rather than the death of a loved one – whether that death is unexpected or long awaited. The poem Farewell my Friends by Rabindranath Tagore focuses more on the journey of life, rather than the heartbreak of death.

‘Farewell my Friends’ by Rabindranath Tagore

Farewell My Friends

It was beautiful

As long as it lasted

The journey of my life.

I have no regrets

Whatsoever said

The pain I’ll leave behind.

Those dear hearts

Who love and care…

And the strings pulling

At the heart and soul…

The strong arms

That held me up

When my own strength

Let me down.

At the turning of my life

I came across

Good friends,

Friends who stood by me

Even when time raced me by.

Farewell, farewell My friends

I smile and

Bid you goodbye.

No, shed no tears

For I need them not

All I need is your smile.

If you feel sad

Do think of me

For that’s what I’ll like

When you live in the hearts

Of those you love

Remember then

You never die.

Whichever poem you choose, it will be an important part of the ceremony. Some families prefer a humorous poem, while others prefer poems about love. But remember, the poetry used within a funeral ceremony doesn’t need to be about death or dying. You can choose a favourite family poem, or something from time shared together at school. It’s really up to you.


Adele Chaplin is a humanist funeral celebrant based in Ipswich.  You can follow Adele on Facebook.

How do I choose a poem for a funeral?

Don’t worry! You don’t have to dig around in a library to find the perfect poem. Your humanist celebrant will ask the right questions so they are able to suggest something suited to the person you want to remember.

What is a humanist funeral ceremony?

A humanist funeral is a non-religious ceremony that focuses on the person who has died, the life they led, and the relationships they forged.

The ceremony is conducted by a humanist celebrant. It is both a celebration of a life and a dignified, personal farewell.

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