Hi, I'm Pat

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No two couples are ever the same. My aim in your unique wedding ceremony,is to ensure that it is about what you both want included, your beliefs and hopes. Some couples like to include traditional or cultural elements that are special to them. For instance, I conducted a wedding that included a Chinese tea ceremony. Others just want a non-church occasion with traditional elements where they can be declared married! It’s up to you!

6 steps to your wedding ceremony!

We discuss your initial ideas

I write the draft script

You amend and approve the script

Sometimes the ceremony is rehearsed, preferably at your chosen venue

The wedding takes place!

You receive a presentation copy of the words.

Fees* are within the recommended Humanists UK guidelines, dependent on how long you want it to last and therefore how long I am likely to need.

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Pat Jay

Where I work

My wedding, civil partnership and reaffirmation ceremonies are very flexible and can be as simple or elaborate as you wish.

I write a unique script for you which reflects your approach to life and the promises you want to make, without any religious content. The focus is on your commitment to each other.

I help you choose readings and poetry, anecdotes, stories and music that is personal and relevant. Live music can be incredibly moving.

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The first wedding I ever conducted was on a jetty next to (quite a deep!) river. The last one I conducted was in a restaurant. In between, I have conducted weddings in hotels, village halls, in corners of farm meadows, in France and Italy and, perhaps my favourite, on Tunbridge Wells Common in a quiet glade.estimonials

‘A huge THANK YOU for all you did for us. We thoroughly enjoyed the whole process – it made us laugh (a lot!) and cry.!

How to contact me
Email

patjay.kent@gmail.com

Phone

07967 327437

HUMANIST CEREMONIES™ is the network of more than 550 celebrants, trained by national charity Humanists UK to a gold standard to provide memorable and meaningful humanist ceremonies to non-religious people. Operating throughout England, Wales, Northern Ireland and the Channel Islands, we deliver authentic, tailor-made and heartfelt ceremonies for life’s key moments. They are always inclusive and welcoming, regardless of the beliefs of those attending.

You can trust Humanist Ceremonies celebrants: We are DBS-checked, fully insured, and regularly peer reviewed for quality assurance. We are committed to a code of conduct, and have a transparent and robust complaints process in the rare case of a problem. We all pay a monthly fee to Humanists UK to further support the work of the charity, and are part of a regional network for like-minded celebrants for support and learning.

Humanist weddings

A humanist wedding ceremony is a wonderful option to celebrate your wedding in the way you choose: without religion but with meaning, and totally true to the two of you. They are uplifting and heartwarming occasions, personal to each couple to reflect your personalities and interests, and your love story. Sincere and significant, your ceremony will be crafted to create an occasion which is unique and fitting to you both.