Tips for planning a romantic humanist wedding

Tips for planning a romantic humanist wedding

Choosing a humanist ceremony means that you can add unique and personal touches to your wedding, so that your special day is as full of romance as you would like! Led by a humanist celebrant your non-religious ceremony will focus on your personal story celebrating your relationship, commitment, and love for one another.

If you would like your wedding day to fully embrace love and romance, we’ve put together some tips below to help you plan your perfectly romantic humanist wedding.

Here are 6 tips that will help make your wedding day a true celebration of love:


1. Writing personalised vows:

Crafting heartfelt personal vows can be a significant aspect of a romantic humanist wedding, allowing you to express your feelings and commitments to each other. A good way to start writing your vows is by reflecting on the journey of your relationship, the qualities you admire in your partner, and the promises you want to make for your future together. Personalised vows provide a unique opportunity to share your very own love story with your guests, creating a memorable moment between the two of you during the ceremony.

Consider incorporating anecdotes, inside jokes, or meaningful references that show the connection between the two of you. Ensure that each of your vows resonate with you both and strike a balance between sincerity and celebration.

If you become lost for words when thinking about writing your own vows, your Humanist Ceremonies celebrant will be able to help you to get started. they’ll be happy to hear your ideas and can provide a range of sample humanist wedding vows for you to look through for inspiration, or to repurpose.

Lucy and Jona’s humanist wedding outside
Photograph: Lucy and Jona’s humanist wedding by Alexander Crane Photography


2. Choose a meaningful location

Choosing a location which is meaningful to you as a couple sets the tone for a romantic wedding. Humanist weddings can happen in any place you choose, indoors or outside so consider somewhere that holds sentimental memories or aligns with your shared interests. Whether it’s the park where you had your first date, a venue with breathtaking natural scenery, or a community space that supports your values, the location should bring the two of you joy. Discuss the options with your partner and talk through the emotional and practical aspects of each venue, remembering to consider if the venue is an inclusive space which has appropriate accessibility for all of your guests. Once you’ve chosen your perfect location, you can tailor the ceremony to incorporate elements that harmonise with the surroundings, creating a wonderful experience for everyone involved.

3. Include symbolic rituals

Symbolic rituals are powerful expressions of love and commitment, and they can play a crucial role in your romantic humanist wedding. These rituals can be deeply personal, reflecting your unique journey together. Consider incorporating elements like a handfasting ceremony, a symbolic act where the hands of the couple are bound together with ribbon or cord, to represent their commitment to each other, or you could both light a candle to symbolise your union. Another idea is to plant together a sapling tree in a pot, representing how your relationship will grow and strengthen over the years to come.

Discuss your ideas with your partner and choose rituals that resonate with both of you. Remember that the purpose is to create a representation of your love and commitment in a way that feels authentic and comfortable to you.

Image of a handfasting ceremony
Photograph: Bekka and Gareth’s handfasting ceremony at their humanist wedding taken by Grant Lampard photography


4. Involve your family and friends:

Humanist weddings celebrate the coming together of two individuals, committing to one another in front of their wider circle of family and friends. Involving loved ones in your ceremony is a beautiful way to celebrate your wider community. You can invite your guests to participate by sharing readings, poems, or anecdotes that hold significance for them about you as a couple, playing a music instrument, or by taking part in a symbolic gesture.

Their involvement not only adds a personal touch but also reinforces the support surrounding your union. You can collaborate with your chosen participants, providing them with guidance on the themes you’d like them to convey. This collaborative effort with your loved ones can contribute to the overall warmth and inclusivity of your humanist wedding ceremony.


5. A Thoughtful Wedding Ceremony Script: collaborate with a Humanist Ceremonies Celebrant

If you’d like a particular theme to your wedding, or you know how you want the ceremony to make people feel, working with your Humanist Ceremonies celebrant will be a key element in shaping the script for your romantic wedding!

Our celebrants are trained and accredited by Humanists UK and are experienced in creating meaningful and personalised ceremonies that align with your values. The collaborative scripting process will involve deep conversations between you and the celebrant to understand your personal journey, what’s important to you and how you want your wedding day to be. The celebrant then weaves these elements into a ceremony script that not only tells your love story but also reflects the style of the ceremony. Their expertise in wonderful storytelling ensures that the ceremony is engaging and resonates with you and your guests. Through this collaboration, the script becomes a heartfelt and authentic expression of love, creating an unforgettable wedding day for you and for everyone present.

  1. Include romantic humanist poems

To add an extra element of emotion to your love filled humanist wedding, consider including romantic poetry in your ceremony. Whether you choose classic love poems, verses that hold personal significance, or decide to put pen to paper yourselves with an original composition, poetry is a great way to evoke deep emotions and further connect your guests to your love.

If you’re looking for non-religious wedding poems you can speak with your celebrant who’ll  be happy to provide you with some examples, You could also find inspiration in The Little Book of Humanist Weddings which is full of quotes and poems. , If you have a family member or friend with a talent for words you could ask them to create and deliver a poem as part of the ceremony.  This would add both a touch of literary romance and something personal and unique to the two of you, making your wedding a heartfelt celebration.

Here are five of our celebrants’ favourite romantic poems for weddings. You might find one that’s perfect for you.

You can also find both wedding vow inspiration and humanist poetry in The Little Book of Humanist Weddings.

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'My humanist ceremony was the most special day of my life. All my family were blown away. Both my parents said that they'd never been to a wedding that was more personal or heartfelt.'
Madeleine, 34

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