I am funeral celebrant trained by Humanists UK. I’m a semi-retired teacher, living with my partner and our small dog. I am very used to public speaking and I’m told that I’m a good listener, kind and compassionate.
The death and loss of a loved one is, without doubt, one of life’s most significant experiences. A non-religious funeral ceremony focuses on the heartfelt recognition of the person who has died.
In the words of Jane Goodall:
“Every individual life matters, every individual has a role to play, every individual has made a difference.”
I would like to offer you a safe pair of hands to support and guide you and your family in creating a personal, meaningful, and respectful ceremony that celebrates the life of your loved one. I warmly welcome enquiries from anyone who has lost someone close.
As well as leading funeral ceremonies, I have supported my class community after the death of one of their peers, been involved in the pre-planning of a close friend’s funeral, led ceremonies for both of my parents, and written and taught lessons on bereavement for children, commissioned by the national charity Winston’s Wish. I understand how hard this subject can be, and I find it a real privilege to be part of a process that marks this moment and honours someone's life story and legacy.
A memorable goodbye
I have often wondered what makes people say that a funeral was a “good” one.
Patti Smith suggests:
“If you transform grief into remembrance, then you magnify the person you lost and give something of that person to other people.”
My experience of leading and attending ceremonies has led me to believe that a good funeral often includes:
A set time to hear and tell the stories of someone’s life
A ceremony that places the wishes of the deceased person, their family, and friends at its heart
A range of emotions — tears, nods of recognition, laughter, and sometimes cheer from learning new insights about the person’s life
A time for friends and family to collectively bear witness, offer comfort, and say farewell
A combination of music, readings, personal contributions, and rituals that help manage potentially overwhelming emotions
A ceremony guided and led with calm, respect, and quiet confidence
Humanist funerals are for anyone who would like a non-religious ceremony, not just humanists. It would be an honour to help you create a ceremony that is a fitting tribute. I can help you design something as simple or as creative as you wish.
