Hi, I'm Cate

I am a Humanist Funeral Celebrant based in Knaresborough, North Yorkshire. I am semi-retired and, apart from doing ceremonies, dedicate my time to volunteering for a local community garden and nature reserve, gardening, art work, music, keeping active; and, of course, friends and family.

I was motivated to train as a Celebrant following the death of my own father. At the time, I respected my mother’s wishes to choose a religious funeral for him and wasn’t aware of the alternatives. However, I felt the need to celebrate my father’s life in a way that was meaningful for me. I did this by writing and reading a tribute to him. Although difficult at the time, I drew strength from it and found it enormously satisfying.

When I first became aware of Humanists UK’s work, I realised that I could use the listening, writing and speaking skills I had developed throughout my former career in the NHS to support other people to say a meaningful goodbye to the important people in their lives. I have been taking funeral ceremonies since 2017.

It is an immense privilege to be invited into your life at this most difficult of times. Whilst it is always good to meet in person, I am also happy to host web-based discussions with people at a distance if that is easier.

My role is to work with those closest to the person who has died to put together a ceremony that captures the essence and personality of the person who has died with warmth, honesty, dignity and affection. A ceremony that strikes a balance between history and relationships; achievements and personality; tears and smiles. There is no fixed format - my goal is to lead you through the art of the possible with no two ceremonies being the same. The ceremony can take place in a crematorium, cemetery, natural burial ground or other place of significance to you and your loved one. Having this choice lies at the heart of a Humanist funeral - after all, there is only one chance to say goodbye.

I welcome participation in the ceremony from family and friends. Although it may feel challenging, many people find themselves able to stand up, just like I did, and feel pleased to have done so. And of course, I am always prepared to step in at the last minute, if it all becomes too difficult.

After the ceremony I will give you a beautifully presented transcript of the ceremony with a personalised cover. I will also send you a copy by email to share with those who could not attend the funeral if you wish.