Would you like help honouring your loved one? Not sure where to start to plan a funeral or memorial ceremony? To find out how I could help, please call me on 07860 735136. Weekdays, weekends and evenings are equally fine.
About
I like to combine my skills at writing, public speaking and organisation with my passion, and compassion, for people to help them through such a significant life event as the death of a loved one, family member or friend.
Ceremony outline
Funerals of whatever form are a time for those who knew the deceased to gather together to remember them and say a formal farewell. It is also a time to celebrate the deceased’s life. A humanist funeral puts particular emphasis on remembering the life of the deceased – recalling their character and achievements. There will often be tears but there can also be humour. There will certainly be respect and compassion.
The normal order for a humanist ceremony is:
Welcome
Some thoughts on life and death
Tribute
Quiet time for reflection
Formal goodbye
But all of this can be changed to meet your wishes – you can choose what you want included, or not, and the form the ceremony takes.
The main part is the tribute to the deceased. Sometimes this is written by a family member or friend. But often as a celebrant I meet with the chief mourners to get a picture of the deceased so I can write a suitable tribute.
Services provided
I will write a script for the whole ceremony incorporating any tributes or readings others wish to make; can help with the order sheet for the ceremony; can help with suggestions of music and readings; and will lead the ceremony. I work with the funeral director to ensure the ceremony goes smoothly. My fee is £250 which can be paid through the funeral director or directly. I take funeral ceremonies in crematoriums and natural burial sites; memorial services anywhere you wish to hold one or interment of ashes at the barrow at Dode lost village. I am based in Sevenoaks but will take ceremonies anywhere in Kent, Sussex or London. I lead many ceremonies at the Kent & Sussex Crematorium in Tunbridge Wells, Bluebell Crematorium in Halstead, Vinters Park in Maidstone, Wealden Crematorium in Horam and the Eden Valley natural burial ground in Edenbridge, amongst others.
PS
To get a flavour of who I am, when not working as a business coach or funeral celebrant, I like wild swimming; travel; mah-jong; running with my dog and reading.